That's crap Bella. Wishing you well soon. I had a hysterectomy last week and my lord the pains from the gas pumped into body is so painful. Feel very sorry for myself ... finding resting (I'm a slow runner) the worst. Giving instructions to my husband is exhausting, although he's willing, but telling somebody to change a food bin bag and spray with disinfectant is just one of the tiny things my head has to deal with. I'm now rambling and wondering why my knickers, despite being huge, are tight. Then I looked at my swollen lower half and realised I needed extra huge! Anyhoo take care XxX
Be kind to yourself Bella, you’ve had a traumatic event happen to you over which you had no control and where you had to put your trust in complete strangers, the body heals a lot quicker than the mind it takes a while for that to catch up in my experience. I had a double mastectomy this year due to a second BC diagnosis and I was given the book you mentioned it was so insightful and I really did give myself time to heal rather than try & rush through and get back to normal. Take it one day at a time - that’s all you can do x
It is genuinely worrying that in a medical setting, it takes a concerned husband pushing, for action to be taken. I’ve experienced this too multiple times (thank you chronic illness) and it’s left me feeling that intentional or not, there is so much sexism in medical settings. Hope you are healing well 💛
I don't have any social media anymore so I couldn't send any love but when Greg said what had happened my immediate thought was 'poor Bella, she must be so anxious' because I know from following you when I did have SM that we share many of the same anxieties.
I also know how frustrating it is to have come face to face with an anxiety and still be scared of it. Exposure therapy should be gradual and to have to face something without the slow build up can not only leave you still anxious but in a state of shock too.
Go easy on yourself. Your body and mind have been through something traumatic x
P.S. It should never have got to the stage of bursting when you were literally in the hospital. If you ever feel like you want to find out how/why that happened then PALS will be able to help you.
The art of recovery is definitely a thing we need to be better at. My husband is recovering from open heart surgery and - similar to you - doesn't have to rush back to work or have young kids. Before he came home he was determined to be up and doing, but once he realised how awful he felt, he embraced the sofa and all the streaming services!
I think what you went through is terrible and you shouldn’t justify that as a good service, I think we all come away from these experiences and say how great everyone one was and in an emergency they truly are but you were left and if it wasn’t for Greg and your family it could have been worse for you! Your story has become the norm, doctors and nurses rush from one crisis to another fighting fires, it’s not right and is getting worse. They are skilled obviously (some with better bedside manners) but overworked perhaps and underpaid?!? I would worry if I had no-one to advocate for me in hospital. My daughter has disabilities (Rett syndrome) and the nurses doctors need me to question, chase and often ask for second for opinions it’s scary!
Wow I could’ve written this myself when you said about being hypersensitive to body sensations. It’s crippling. I empathise. The way you dealt with this situation is truly inspiring and I can’t help but feel reassured by you. Thank you. Keep taking good care.
That's crap Bella. Wishing you well soon. I had a hysterectomy last week and my lord the pains from the gas pumped into body is so painful. Feel very sorry for myself ... finding resting (I'm a slow runner) the worst. Giving instructions to my husband is exhausting, although he's willing, but telling somebody to change a food bin bag and spray with disinfectant is just one of the tiny things my head has to deal with. I'm now rambling and wondering why my knickers, despite being huge, are tight. Then I looked at my swollen lower half and realised I needed extra huge! Anyhoo take care XxX
Be kind to yourself Bella, you’ve had a traumatic event happen to you over which you had no control and where you had to put your trust in complete strangers, the body heals a lot quicker than the mind it takes a while for that to catch up in my experience. I had a double mastectomy this year due to a second BC diagnosis and I was given the book you mentioned it was so insightful and I really did give myself time to heal rather than try & rush through and get back to normal. Take it one day at a time - that’s all you can do x
It is genuinely worrying that in a medical setting, it takes a concerned husband pushing, for action to be taken. I’ve experienced this too multiple times (thank you chronic illness) and it’s left me feeling that intentional or not, there is so much sexism in medical settings. Hope you are healing well 💛
I don't have any social media anymore so I couldn't send any love but when Greg said what had happened my immediate thought was 'poor Bella, she must be so anxious' because I know from following you when I did have SM that we share many of the same anxieties.
I also know how frustrating it is to have come face to face with an anxiety and still be scared of it. Exposure therapy should be gradual and to have to face something without the slow build up can not only leave you still anxious but in a state of shock too.
Go easy on yourself. Your body and mind have been through something traumatic x
P.S. It should never have got to the stage of bursting when you were literally in the hospital. If you ever feel like you want to find out how/why that happened then PALS will be able to help you.
The art of recovery is definitely a thing we need to be better at. My husband is recovering from open heart surgery and - similar to you - doesn't have to rush back to work or have young kids. Before he came home he was determined to be up and doing, but once he realised how awful he felt, he embraced the sofa and all the streaming services!
I think what you went through is terrible and you shouldn’t justify that as a good service, I think we all come away from these experiences and say how great everyone one was and in an emergency they truly are but you were left and if it wasn’t for Greg and your family it could have been worse for you! Your story has become the norm, doctors and nurses rush from one crisis to another fighting fires, it’s not right and is getting worse. They are skilled obviously (some with better bedside manners) but overworked perhaps and underpaid?!? I would worry if I had no-one to advocate for me in hospital. My daughter has disabilities (Rett syndrome) and the nurses doctors need me to question, chase and often ask for second for opinions it’s scary!
Wow I could’ve written this myself when you said about being hypersensitive to body sensations. It’s crippling. I empathise. The way you dealt with this situation is truly inspiring and I can’t help but feel reassured by you. Thank you. Keep taking good care.